Wednesday, November 11, 2009
VENTING
So I have been struggling a lot lately with so many, many things and all I can do to make it through is to just laugh and basically fake it until I make it ha ha! I hate that the future is so full of the unknown. I am just feeling so not in control of anything. Has anyone ever felt this way?? Advice?? I don't usual deal with stress very well, and everything is growing and I can't see the end of the light in this tunnel!! I know that H.F. is here for me and I know that sometimes our heads are so full of "life" that it is hard for us to hear his answers for us. But how can I calm things down to be able to hear the answers? I really feel like I am going a mile a minute trying to be a good mom and wife, trying to workout to have that great body, trying to keep my house clean. AHH! ok, I am done venting. I do have a lot to be thankful for, just could use some friend advice. :)!
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My advice: Let your body go to crap, and your kitchen, too. Wait... that's not good advice! (But it IS what I do.) Really, though, let one of them slide at least once a day. You don't have to be supermom AND supermaid AND superhot every day. You can slack off on all of them one day and totally lounge around and read a good novel. So long as you don't do that every day, you're still super in all of those other ways. I'm sorry you've been stressed. I have days/weeks like that, too. This, too, shall pass. :) Feel better.
Oh I totally have those moments, days, weeks! My latest strategy, put the kids to bed early, and then turn on a tv show that I don't have to look at to enjoy, and clean the house while I listen. Remember your kids are still little and it gets cleaner as they get older. Somedays paper plates are a godsend. And if I am totally overwhelmed, eat lots of rocky road and call my MOTHER!!! Hang in there.
Oh Mary! That's not good, but it does happen to everyone at some point. My advice is make a list of everything that you need to do, starting with today. When I feel really stressed and make a list, sometimes it's not as bad as I think it is and it feels more managable. Or at least I can see that somethings aren't really necessary and I can just mark them off or put them off for awhile.
Hope that helps. If nothing else, call me and I'll take your boys for a few hours! (Seriously!)
Sweetheart!! welcome to the world of the stay at home mommy! Things will be completely out of control for years, it doesn't get worse it only gets different! Embrace it! Love the fact that you get to stay and clean your kitchen, that you get to chase that perfect body and those cuties!! When I was working I CRAVED that madness!!! Now that I am back where i am I love it!! Dont not work out though! Its the best outlet!!(i have done it consistently for 2 weeks now!!Thanks to you I think i am officially back on the wagon!!)Normally Oprah bugs me(i know thats insane but its true!) but she keeps a gratitude journal, maybe that will help...I also have found that if I can even be up for 15 minutes before my kids are up it is way helpful so I can kinda ease into the day and not hit the ground running!! But the one thing I would say is ENJOY the madness of the stay at home mommy!!There is nothing like it in the world and like Melissa said if that doesn't work there is always CHocolate!!!
I totally know how you feel! I have learned that if I do not take care of myself (mentally, physically, spiritually) I cannot take care of my family. Even though my family always comes first, every once in a while I just have to let the house go, toss my to-do list out the window and read a book, make a craft or do something I love to keep me sane. Then I jump back into it and take care of all those things that need to be done. Figure out what makes you happy and make it fit in your life, somewhere..anywhere!!! It is worth it! Your family doesn't need SUPER WOMAN...they need YOU!!!!
Ok, I just have to say that through the tears reading what all of you wonderful friends and moms have written has really hit me. Thank you guys for all your advice, a lot of it I am trying out starting TODAY!! I love what you said jennifer that is doesn't get worse, it just gets different, and I think a gratitude journal is perfect thing for me to be doing. And I can't stop working out, it is one of my ONLY outlets for stress, but maybe I can try to ease up and not try to remember that my little ones aren't going to be little forever. Really all of you thank you so much. it helps to know that there are WOMEN out there who understand and can reach out to help me. I know it won't change overnight, but I know that sometimes its one minute at a time.
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